Hey, Faggot:
Lemme get this straight: every time she wants to fuck, you’re either too tired or not in the mood? Every time? And she never gets mad or frustrated? Hmm. Well, she’s either cheating on you, has a great relationship with her vibrator, or is some sort of Latter-day Saint.
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But you know what I really think is up with the girlfriend? She’s not letting on. She’s not communicating her frustration with your lack-o-libido, but I’m betting she’s frustrated, buster. Why isn’t she letting on? Who knows. Maybe, stupidly, she wants to spare your feelings, hoping this dry spell will end sooner or later. Or maybe she’s hoping you’ll lose that high-pressure job (do you work for AT&T?), leaving you with more time and energy to devote to her sexual needs.
I am a 36-year-old gay man with a boyfriend problem. He wants sex more often than I do. He doesn’t demand sex, but gets sad and pouty when he doesn’t get it. We have discussed the matter many times. I have reassured him that I find him sexy and I love him. I am just not as horny as he is. I have offered to give him sex on demand, but he doesn’t want just sex, he wants enthusiastic sex. He says that he feels sad and rejected when I am not eager for it too. This is really very frustrating and I do not know what to do. –Not Horny Enough
Why the double standard? Well, gay people have sex clubs and bathhouses to drop into for quick, anonymous homo-sex, and breeders (and lesbians living outside of NY or SF) do not have corresponding institutions. It is entirely possible for NHE’s boyfriend to have sex on the side under circumstances that will not threaten his primary relationship. It is not possible for HIN’s girlfriend to do the same: there is no place for straight people to get laid by other straight people who wish to remain completely anonymous. Why this is the case could fill a book, and maybe I’ll write that book someday, but I only have 1,100 or so words available to me at present. As I’m unable to thoroughly dissect this double standard in the space allotted me, I prefer to leave it stand as a simple matter of fact.
Thank you for your intelligent question.
